Love Your Children Uniquely

Love Your Children Uniquely

Each child has a unique and evolving personality. Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish in Siblings Without Rivalry say “To be loved uniquely – for one’s own special self – is to be loved as much as we need to be loved.” Each child is different and unique in all character and physical traits. There are no two children the same. To ensure that our children know that they are special and loved and that they will develop good self esteem, here are a list of important things to consider doing with your children: set aside time for each child be an attentive listener recognize and nurture their individual talents accept each child for who he/she is give up unrealistic expectations separate the child from the behavior keep from confiding in one child about another create an atmosphere of family support for each child’s unique gifts or talents or projects create work or fun projects together as a family unit remember equality doesn’t always bring justice Remember each child is a unique gift from God. By loving and treating each one uniquely, children will feel secure, loved and accepted....

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You are never too old to learn

You are never too old to learn

“You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with”.  That quote from Jim Rohn, who wrote The Art of Exceptional Living has traveled many business circles.  Think about it in your personal life. Have you ever thought about who you hang out with the most? Have you ever thought about who was a positive or negative influence in your life? Have you ever had a friend negate an idea of yours or tell you that you couldn’t do something? I want to encourage you to take a different look at who you are spending the most time with. Are you inspired, accepted, encouraged, challenged, or motivated after being around him or her? Are they contributing to your personal growth and success? While working at doing something new, I became intentional to seek out and spend more time with others whom could challenge me and stretch me in an area that is out of my comfort zone. While I still want to hang with my friends whom I am comfortable with, I am finding opportunities to be with some new people who are not only a source of encouragement, but have a great amount of good ideas and suggestions. You are never too old to learn....

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Play Therapy

Play Therapy

Play is the language of a child. The art of Play Therapy uses play to help children express their feelings through toys instead of words. Play is the child’s natural medium of expression. Toys are to children what words are to adults. The Association For Play Therapy (APT) defines play therapy as “the systematic use of a theoretical model to establish an interpersonal process wherein trained play therapists use the therapeutic powers of play to help clients prevent or resolve psychosocial difficulties and achieve optimal growth and development.” In the textbook, Play Therapy : The Art of the Relationship (2nd ed), Dr. Gary Landreth defined child centered play therapy as follows: “A dynamic interpersonal relationship between a child and a therapist trained in play therapy procedures who provides selected play materials and facilitates the development of a safe relationship for the child to fully express and explore self through play, the child’s natural medium of communication, for optimal growth and development.” Play Therapy provides a way for a child to express their experience and feelings through the art of play. If you want to know more about play therapy, watch the following video which explains the value of play and the play therapy process....

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Walk by Faith

Walk by Faith

Ever been “frozen” to take the next step? Ever been drawn to step out in faith but got stalled because we aren’t sure of ALL the steps, therefore, we don’t even take the first one? We seem to be waiting for assurance that the next step is going to work out. I have learned that God doesn’t always give the entire plan; but He usually just gives the next step. I read somewhere that FAITH is Fantastic Adventure In Trusting Him. Faith is not passive. It is an active endeavor which requires you to MOVE forward. Don’t be afraid to take a step because you think it will be the wrong one. One of my favorite movie clips is from the “Indiana Jones-The Last Crusade” which gives an idea of the courage it takes to take that next step in faith. Spend less than two minutes watching and be reminded of your faith walk in the journey you are in today....

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Plan B

Plan B

I recently attended Royal Family Kids Camp, a camp for abused, abandoned and neglected children where I’ve served as a volunteer since 1999. I served in a role where I help kids who are struggling behaviorally to enjoy their week at camp. The week ended with our Director, Darren Edwards, reporting that this was a week of “plan B”. We had to come up with alternatives to our original plans. To name just a few changes, there were adults who serve in important roles who got sick during the week and there were people stepping up to serve many roles instead of just the job they were assigned to. Also, the water was cut off for two hours one morning as the kids were arriving for an indoor activity of kids club. What do you think happens when you tell adults and kids they can’t go to the bathroom? All of a sudden, people need to go. In addition, a big wind and rain storm came one afternoon and cut off power during chapel time. Can you imagine what it would be like to have 132 kids and over 100 adults in a dark room while it’s storming outside and maintain a sense of self- control? The activities were conducted with a flashlight for about 35 minutes. Then, because of the big storm, the outdoor activities after dinner had to be altered. The kids had looked forward to this time of jumping houses and the rock climbing wall. Activities were changed to indoors and outdoor activities were postponed to the next day. The camp motto is “Blessed are the flexible, for they shall not be broken.” There were many opportunities to be stretched that week. It’s a life lesson for all of us. Sometimes things happen in our control and sometimes it’s out of our control. Plans change, a loss happens, someone else’s choice deeply impacts us. How are we going to respond to it? We have choices in our response. What will you choose?...

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Facing Fear

Facing Fear

If you struggle with fear, anxiety, dread, you’re not alone. Anxiety disorders are a major health problem in America. Fear steals. It steals our joy. It keeps us from moving forward in progress. It steals our purpose. It brings about torment. Freedom from fear means to not let the fear control us. We will never completely be rid of fear. If we are trying to bypass what fears us, often times we create more angst for ourselves by avoidance. Depending on life circumstances, there may be something that we are dealing with that brings about a feeling of fear. Typically new opportunities can bring about new level of concern. For most who know me, I am not a technology fan although I understand its benefits and have learned to embrace them regularly. For those of you who love technology, you may not be able to relate to this, but I bet you know someone like this. A parent, a friend or someone you care about. You might experience fear of imperfection, fear of rejection, fear of things not going your way, fear of losing a relationship. The list is many on the different kinds of fears. It’s not about avoiding them. It’s about facing them-learning how to confront them. I got a friend to train me about technology which has helped empower me to progress forward and face that fear. The more you confront your fear no matter what you feel, the more the fear will lessen in your life. The more you give in to fear, the more we let it control us. Courage is when we keep moving forward, making forward progress while you still feel afraid. It’s up to us to learn how to face that fear, to press forward and jump into the midst of fear. God’s word speaks directly to these concerns. The real Healer has invited us to cast all our anxieties on Him because he cares for us (I Peter 5:7). He will never leave us nor forsake us (Hebrews 13:5) We can be confident in that He will meet all our needs according to His riches in Glory. (Philippians 4:19). Life is not easy, but God has equipped us. We can feel afraid, but we don’t have to BE afraid. Learn how to do the hard things with Him....

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